Why yes, you ARE a homophobe and no, that's NOT okay.

Right, this pisses me off.

( If stupid people make your brain hurt, look away now. )

First of all - 'queerness'? Really? Okay, people who are straight do NOT get to use that word. It's not quite as pad as 'poof' or 'fairy' or 'fag' or 'dyke' but it's in that vein and not even gay people (that I know, myself included) use 'queer' with any regularity any more. 

Second of all - this person has 'nothing against' me, does she? Then why does she want to see people with my sexuality marginalised? Men KISSING should be x-rated? Because it's SO obscene, apparently. It's SO pornographic and SO currupting we'll turn all the little kiddies gay and the human race will die out because no one will want to shag anyone of the opposite sex any more because there are MEN KISSING on tv - REGULARLY.

DEAR GOD THE HORROR!

People like this make me SO angry. They are the WORST kind of homophobe, because they don't realise that that is PRECISELY what they are. They think they have 'nothing against' us. They even have 'friends who are g-a-y'. But what they have is heterosexual privilige and they are the single biggest obsticle to GLBT people achieving a status as equals to heterosexuals in society.  You know what we are? We are NORMAL. There is NOTHING WRONG WITH US. A show with gay characters, with bisexual characters, with a canon gay romance between regulars - that is a FUCKING GREAT STEP FORWARD because it normalises something that so many people see as 'weird' or 'perverse'. They have no problem with us so long as we keep it to ourselves, sit in a nice, shiny row and never kiss in public so that we don't disrupt their happy, heterosexual lives and disturb the nice, normal heterosexual couples kissing in the streets and on tv.

WE ARE NORMAL. All we want is to be SEEN as NORMAL. Emphasis on SEEN. The problem with people like this - with all the many, MANY people like this - is that they DON'T see us as normal. Whatever they say, however much they say they have 'nothing against us', however many gay friends they have. They see us as perverse - as something 'other' and a little bit dirty that needs to be kept behind closed doors. (and the irony is that if her gay friends - which I doubt she actually has - knew that that was her attitude, I doubt they'd actually BE her friends for very long).

And it upsets me, because falling in love with a woman is probably the most beautiful feeling I've ever had. It's sublime. And pure, and good, and true. There is nothing perverted; there is nothing digusting; there is nothing seedy about how I feel and have felt. And at the height of it I've wanted to stand up and SING IT from the ROOFTOPS because it makes me so happy and I want to world to SEE that! Who doesn't want to share how happy that feeling makes them?

And people like her - people who have 'nothing against' me - if they were in charge, they'd make sure I never could. They'd grimace and tut and look away if I did. People like her are what is WRONG with this world; people like her make me so damn angry and so damn sad. Because I'm not safe yet. I may never be.